Love, Relationships, and Family

Article By: April Mitchell

Many people are all up and arms about relationships today. I say there is simple solutions to many of the problems relationships suffer today. Both parties have to be willing to embrace their role and own it. For instance women need to realize they need to step back into their place in the household and let the man be THE MAN. A way for a family to be successful in these tumultuous times is by everybody doing their part. A family is a team in order for the family to thrive here are some steps to take. Women first I want to talk to you. To submit to your husband or future husband if you act right is nothing bad or wrong and it won’t kill you. Actually in most cases you will find yourself happier. Ladies stop trying to run your households. Become your mate’s helper not horror. When he comes from work have him something to eat. See if he needs a massage or to get something off his chest which is not easy because men aren’t sharers. Run him some bath water let him know you appreciate what he does in the family and especially if he is doing his best. Hey we can only do our best. If he loses his job don’t pressure him and judge him and definitely don’t nag him. These are some issues men find most annoying and sometimes intolerable about women. Women if you have a decent man work with him to make things better for the whole family. Get in that kitchen and cook him some mouth and heart watering dishes. Well do your best. If people put more passion into the things they did for their loved ones families would be so much closer and better. Women don’t try to over step the man’s authority but instead suggest ideas to him and if he says no then it must be because he sees somewhere in the near or far future that idea will backfire. Women show your children you love them gifts don’t show love gifts show just that a gift. Kids don’t care as much about gifts as you usually think. Don’t get me wrong they care about gifts but would prefer some love from their parents over a gift any day. Check for yourself take a good look at their face when you surprise them with a gift and at another time give them of yourself and watch the difference in the reaction. Now men I didn’t forget about you. If you want a woman to do her part you have to do yours. You are the leader of the household. Lead your wife in right paths don’t think you will get anywhere telling her stuff like I’m the man the ruler the king you have to obey me. How far did that get you so far? Exactly! Men you can’t make a woman do what you want her to do you have to give her a choice. Tell her the best way you see that things will work out for her no matter the situation. Don’t forget to tell her it’s your choice what you decide to do, but the way I’m telling you things will work out for the better. Women if you don’t take his advice and things go sour don’t go to him complaining or you will get those famous words “I told you so”. Men do your best to provide for your family no matter what you have to do that’s not hurting someone else or is illegal of course. A lot of men have pride. In a successful family there is no place for pride or selfishness and many other words I can insert here, but that will take too long. Bottom line is men do what you have to to let that woman know that she can rely on you and that you truly love her. A woman have no problem submitting to a man a real MAN that is, but at the same time you have to be involved with a real Woman. There are a lot of people out there who are just foolish so even if you play your part or fulfill your role some people are just not going to do the right thing by anyone. They can’t do right by themselves they can’t give you what you need. With that being said (but for another article) what comes to play is that people jump into relationships too fast now a day. Take time to know who you are inviting into your life. Too many people are meet greet between the sheet. The end result is usually single parent homes, abortions, diseases, heartache and much more. As for the first date relationships (most anyway) that turns into a living together situation results in molestation, domestic abuse, death, cheating and much much more. People should take more time to get to know each other before engaging in intimacy and before moving in together. Know who you are bringing around your children men and women. Now I did not forget about the children. Children can be whatever you make them to be. The child’s role in the family is to listen to their parents and to stay in a child’s place. What more can I say on their role. Why do grandparents treat the grandchildren better than the children in most cases? This happens because  they in most cases know they sucked at parenthood so they feel they can redeem themselves through their grandkids. Parents tend to forget that one day they will get old and need someone. Usually the one who you spoil is the one when you are in need they are nowhere to be found. Bad idea. This can make things worse between parent and child. Anyone can call themselves parents, but real parents children usually grow up better behaved and secure in themselves. Bad parent’s children usually grow up doing stupid things for attention, drugs, alcohol, etc. Don’t say, well not every child that do drugs do it because of the parent’s failure. That is a lie somewhere the parent didn’t do their job. Whether it be a lack of attention, affection, love, physical abuse, mental abuse, living in a bad environment whatever. When the parent(s), allow bad influences into their home, and in their children’s lives the kids wind up in all kinds of bad scenarios. Than want to cry about their children cutting up. The belt will instill fear in your children and the end result will be a child you can be proud of instead of a convicted felon or crack head or meth head or alcoholic. You get my point. Maybe some people will turn around and realize the way things are going is not working. Most will continue on risking their lives for pleasure. Most will go on allowing anybody around their kids. Most will continue to mistreat and neglect their children by not giving them the love and attention they need. Some men will continue on not being there for their children (that within itself is a powerful and damaging blow) and some moms will continue to be selfish. Thinking only of herself and what she wants and will continually endanger her kids’ lives. Dads are the ones who make the biggest impact though. Men tend to have a wider view or tend to look at things from all angles. Women tend to be narrower viewed when it comes to analyzing situations and making the best choice. Women tend to go off of their feelings more. That is why if you listen to women talk the majority of the time you will hear well I feel like this or I feel like that. Women make decisions that affect their children in negative ways most of the time. Some dads don’t be in their kids’ lives because the mother can’t control her feelings. Women who do this need to take a serious look at themselves and say I need to  do better. I have kids my life doesn’t only just affect me anymore. Men need to say I have children now. I need to be a man and be there for the betterment of my kids. Be there to raise them right. Everyone sees the results of a single parent home. Do something about it. Role rehearsal everyone gather ‘round. Listen good and take this to heart. Men be a strong leader of your family. Show them love, instill values, provide for them, and don’t try to rule anyone. Be a guide to help them to get through and to the levels of life they will go through and have to go through. Women shut up, don’t nag, don’t try to step in the man’s place, submit yourself to your husband if he is doing what he is fulfilling his role the best he can. Don’t expect perfection. Let your children know you love them and give them of yourself, not material things void of love. DO the things of a woman so your man can look at you as a woman. The sleazy clothes doesn’t help either. Children listen to your parents they have been on this earth way longer than you and know more than you. You do not know everything, though you are convinced a hundred percent you do. Don’t be disrespectful to your parents. Wait to grow up. Trust me when you do you’ll wish you were a kid again. Use your childhood to prepare yourself to be trained up in a way that will get you far in a positive way. Children look up to someone who is doing positive things in their life. Parents that could be you!